As social as we human beings are, there are many fascinating behavioral patterns that can be followed. Social acceptance is placed on the 4th level on the Maslow’s need hierarchy theory. According to me if I were to revise this theory based on my observations I shall bring it to the 2nd place and place it after physiological needs. This will therefore be applicable only after basic food, clothing and shelter needs are met. Maslow might have felt otherwise but in my view times have changed so have people. The moment the basic needs are met, our focus shifts on what other people think of us. The picture of our life and luxuries in our head is only painted after weighing all the ideas that we have in our minds. And beware the ideas are never research based. They are more often than not mere reflections of our own self esteem. The funny part being the self esteem is also an idea that we make up in the head, and it is usually on the lower side. Thinking about all this, Life feels like a story that we create for ourselves. Nothing is real; nothing can be etched on stone.
Even while creating that pseudo image about ourselves we look for a third umpire view so that we view how our life looks to the other people around. Based on this thought we make up any entire chapter of self esteem in our life books. These thoughts may not always be true as usual, yet that is the way of life. This constant thought of what others will feel about us leads to a dilemma. A dilemma so strong that it disturbs the basic balance of life. A viscous cycle thus begins.
Wealth is one factor that generations have sworn by as an indicator of happiness. The more the money , the happier they are. Every person in their heart is aware of the fact that this is a myth. Yet the myth remains so strong in the subconscious mind that at the moment of judging people , it takes full control. In spite of the fact that radiating happiness is what we should be looking for, we are hooked on the wealth display. Agreed when people can afford it they shall go for it. But what when they are not able to? Does that have to imply they made bad choices and settled for something lesser in life? In theory we would all like to say NO NO to all the above questions, but can we really abide by it?
Can we actually stay away from the viscous cycle of displaying more wealth than we actually have just to please others and thereby become poorer than we actually are? Are we ready to stay poor just to look rich to the others? Save me for I don’t want to be a part of this. I would like to make my self esteem independent of what the others have to think or say. I would like to be true to myself.